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Donor-conceived people are tracking down their biological fathers, even if they want to hide – Technology & Science

Donor-conceived people are tracking down their biological fathers, even if they want to hide – Technology & Science

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When Laura McInnes was 16, her mother revealed that the father who had raised her was not her biological father. She had been conceived with an anonymous sperm donor.

“It kind of made sense, but most of it was just absolute shock,” said McInnes, now 30 and a mother of four.

It took years to sink in, but when it did, she was determined to find her biological father. “I realized I really didn’t know half of who I was.”

Eventually she turned to DNA testing. Results can be compared  among people to find relatives, who will have different amounts of matching DNA, measured in units called centimorgans, depending on their relationship.

Siblings or parents will be a 50 per cent match, while half-siblings, aunts and uncles, grandparents and other close relatives will be a 25 per cent match.

Laura McInnes

Based on her DNA test results and some online sleuthing, McInnes managed to get in touch with her biological father. (CBC)

That’s how McInnes, who lives in Prince George, B.C., found and contacted her paternal grandmother last June. The woman declined to provide more than basic medical information.

“She was kind and respectful, but she also realized that her son had been promised to be anonymous many, many years ago,” McInnes said.

Undeterred, she did some more online sleuthing, and found the name and address of her biological father four months later.

She sent him a registered letter and not long afterward, she received an email from him “which I stared at and cried for about 15 minutes before I opened.”

A history of secrecy

There was a time when a man could anonymously donate sperm to a couple or woman trying to conceive and everyone could be reasonably sure it would remain a secret. But thanks to DNA testing and the internet, those days are over.

Men and women who didn’t know they were conceived with a sperm donor are unexpectedly turning up the family secret when they take DNA tests for fun, for genealogy research or other reasons.

DNA test results

Individual DNA test results can be compared to other people’s results to find relatives — siblings, parents, half-siblings, aunts and uncles, grandparents and others. (CBC)

And donors who were promised anonymity decades ago are now being contacted by children who have tracked them down with the help of consumer DNA tests from companies like 23andme and Ancestry, and Facebook groups like DNA Detectives.

‘I think it’s folly to be promising anonymity to any kind of donor.’
— Sherry Levitan, fertility lawyer

It’s something sperm donors and recipients now need to be aware of, say those who work in the fertility industry.

“I think it’s folly to be promising anonymity to any kind of donor,” said Sherry Levitan, a Toronto lawyer specializing in assisted reproductive technology.

The databases of DNA testing companies are growing by the day as more people get tested. And even if a donor never takes the test, if one of his relatives does, he can often be found.

Levitan said decades ago, most heterosexual couples were told to keep their use of donor sperm secret. Many children conceived that way were never told.

At that time, the sperm was chosen by doctors, and the parents got very little information.

“There were no medical profiles, there was no genetic history, there was no information about whether the intended donor matched the father physically,” she said.

Respecting donor wishes

Today,  Canadian law forbids paying someone for sperm. Parents choose from profiles that include more information about the donor.

But their choices are still limited. There is just one sperm banking facility in Canada. At Repromed in Toronto, frozen sperm from about 50 donors is stored in a small room.

Dr. Alfonso Del Valle at Repromed

This room contains all Canada’s donor sperm supply. Dr. Alfonso Del Valle is the medical director of Repromed, Canada’s only sperm banking facility. (Craig Chivers/CBC)

Dr. Alfonso Del Valle, Repromed’s medical director, says about 75 per cent of donors now have agreed to let their donor offspring to learn their identity when they turn 18.

But for the others, he said, “We do respect their wishes.”

He added that if those anonymous donors were excluded, Repromed would be left with a very small selection.

A ban on anonymity?

The three people conceived with donor sperm and quoted in this story don’t believe anonymity should be allowed.

“I don’t think it is right to keep people away from their biological family, or at least not let them know,” McInnes said.

Erin Jackson and husband

With the help of an online group called DNA Detectives, Erin Jackson’s husband James McClelland reconstructed the paternal side of her family tree — and revealed the identity of her biological father. (Erin Jackson)

She’s unhappy about being lied to. Now, she is gradually learning more about her biological history, and it means a lot to her to know where she got features like her nose and her chin.

McInnes’s biological father was originally worried about talking to her.

“He had no idea this was going to happen,” she said. “He made an agreement with my parents 30 years ago that he was going to be anonymous and he was worried that he was hurting them, that I was hurting them.”

It’s a wider concern — two other donor-conceived people who shared their stories with CBC News said they could not publicly reveal their names because members of their family felt hurt by their search for their biological fathers or would be hurt if they found out they were donor-conceived.

Since McInnes’s biological father was reassured by her parents that it was OK for them to talk, the two have been gradually getting to know each other, although they haven’t met.

‘They’re making people’

Erin Jackson, 37, is another Canadian conceived with donor sperm who has found and reached out to her biological father. She shares McInnes’s view.

“I think anyone that donates sperm should understand that they’re making people,” she said, “and that those people have a right to know where they come from.”

Jackson describes finding out she was donor-conceived as “the most significant thing that’s happened to me in my whole entire life.”

Her mother shared the secret during a Skype call two years ago.

Normal human sperm

Normal human sperm tagged with a fluorescent dye glow under a microscope. Decades ago, most heterosexual couples were told to keep their use of donor sperm secret. (Theodore L. Tollner/UC Davis)

Five minutes after the call ended, she purchased a DNA testing kit online.

“As soon as I knew half of my medical history and heritage and ethnicity was a question mark, I wanted to know where I was from,” said Jackson,  a writer from the Toronto area who now lives in San Diego and the founder of the online support group We Are Donor Conceived.

‘I think anyone that donates sperm should understand that they’re making people.’
— Erin Jackson, founder of We Are Donor Conceived

The test results revealed that she was one-quarter Ashkenazi Jewish. It also provided the names of some cousins and a half-brother, whom she immediately contacted and now has a good relationship with.

With the help of the online group DNA Detectives, Jackson’s husband James McClelland reconstructed the paternal side of her family tree — and revealed the name of her biological father.

Jackson found his photo from a high school yearbook online. Then she found his address and wrote him a letter. She hasn’t heard back, but hopes to.

Checking records

Del Valle at Repromed doesn’t like the idea of the offspring of anonymous donors turning to DNA testing. He encourages them to contact the company instead. Some donors who had wanted to remain anonymous may now be willing to share their identities, he added.

But Olivia Pratten, a longtime activist in online communities for people conceived with donor sperm, says she has never heard of anyone getting information about their donor sperm by going back to the clinic where they were conceived.

Such clinics aren’t obliged to keep records. And even if they do, those records technically aren’t theirs to access, since they weren’t patients of the clinic, said Pratten. She is from Toronto, who was conceived with donor sperm in  in 1981. (Repromed, founded in 1990, was not involved in the conception of McInnes, Jackson or Pratten.)

Pratten tried for years to learn her biological father’s identity, but was told the records were destroyed by her mother’s fertility doctor.

She sued the B.C. government in 2010 on behalf of other children of anonymous sperm donors to compel the province to give them access to their records when they turn 19 as it does for adopted children. But she lost the case at the B.C. Court of Appeal and the Supreme Court refused to hear it.

Since then, other donor-conceived children have been lobbying for a Canadian registry of sperm donors, like the one in the U.S.

Pratten, who now lives in London, England, won’t say if she has tried DNA testing. But she’s pleased that there’s now another way to get information: “Seeing how DNA tests have changed the game for people is really, really amazing.”


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